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The issue of how to manage and resolve conflict is typically approached as if it is solely or primarily a rational problem. Indeed, most negotiation and mediation training focuses on material positions and interests, and looks at the way to get the most for oneself, or a "win-win" outcome for both sides, measuring "winning" and "losses" in material terms. When emotions are mentioned, they are something to be "managed" or "suppressed" or "vented" at the beginning and then ignored. [1] When they are considered, the discussion about emotions is often limited to an emphasis on how anger causes conflict escalation and how to control it. Many disputants believe that by relying solely on logic, they can mask their emotions and defend themselves from vulnerability. [2] Substantive issues often seem easier to discuss than feelings of humiliation, wounded pride, and anxiety, which are viewed as obstacles to rational thinking and a sign of weakness. [3]
It seems clear, however, that emotions and feelings significantly influence how people deal with conflict. Anyone who has ever gotten angry with a spouse or been demeaned and humiliated by a co-worker will recognize this fact readily. It is also important to note that conflicts sometimes arise precisely because parties ignore their own or others' feelings and emotions. Emotions are both a cause and escalator of conflict, and positive feelings among the parties are often a key component of resolution. Once one accepts that emotion is the foundation of all conflict, the issue of how emotion influences the management of conflict becomes central. Many theorists have begun to point out that the lack of detailed attention paid to emotions and their role in relationships limits our understanding of conflict and that more work needs to be done to remedy this. [4]
Emotion and Conflict
Some people assume that political and economic causes are central to a given conflict, while emotional and relational causes are subsidiary. However, it seems clear that intractable conflicts are fueled by both material and non-material concerns. In addition to instrumental goals and rational interests, people have emotional needs, such as the desire for love, status, recognition, and belonging. [5] To see that intractable conflict has significant relational and emotional causes, one only has to take a look at any of the world's protracted conflicts. Most experts agree that the impediments to peace and reconciliation in Northern Ireland, for example, were deep-seated emotions. [6] The same can easily be said about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, the Cyprus conflict, the Rwandan conflict, Kosovo, North Korea, and the conflicts between racial groups or pro-choice and pro-life advocates in the U.S.
When emotions are hidden and disguised, "the dispute becomes a labyrinth, with layers and layers of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors so concealed that the conflict seems inevitable and insoluble." -- Thomas J. Scheff, from Bloody Revenge: Emotions, Nationalism, and War, p. 14.
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Emotions play a role in how parties make sense of their relationships, degree of power, and social status. People constantly evaluate situations and events to feel out if they are personally relevant. [7] These understandings and appraisals are infused with various emotions and feelings. Thus, emotion not only serves a side effect of conflict, but also frames the way in which parties understand and define their dispute.
Second, within the context of relationships, emotions typically serve a "forward-looking communicative function" and express people's agendas, desires, and goals. [8] When parties perceive that they have incompatible goals or that others are interfering with their desires and pursuits, this elicits emotions and leads to conflict. Often the desires in question are a matter of wanting to be taken seriously, treated with respect, and to have one's identity affirmed. Perceived threats to identity and signs of disrespect typically cause emotions to flare and result in interpersonal or intergroup conflict. In other words, the same issues that lead to protracted conflict, (e.g. values, status, and identity), are also the triggers of strong emotions. People who feel "unfairly attacked, misunderstood, wronged, or righteously indignant" are typically overcome with emotion and respond with hostility and aggression. [9] The intensity of an emotion often signifies the importance and salience of an issue and reveals the underlying values of disputants. Thus, the more personally relevant a situation seems, and the more negative feelings parties experience, the greater the potential for destructive conflict.
Some common emotional responses that reveal concerns about identity are pride, shame, and anger. While feelings of pride are linked to parties' feelings of closeness and connectedness, feelings of shame often result from parties' sense that these relationships are threatened. [10] Parties caught in a dispute are prone to unintentionally humiliate each other or disregard one another's perspectives. Resulting feelings of humiliation and disrespect may give rise to unacknowledged shame. Whether parties can manage shame determines whether there will be cooperation or protracted conflict. If they remain unacknowledged and are not dealt with, hurt feelings and shame tend to give rise to anger, aggression, and conflict escalation. [11] At this point, the substantive issues of the dispute may become less important than parties' hurt feelings and rage. Anger, resentment, and hatred may ultimately give rise to a cycle of violence, and thus serve as a driving force behind many of the world's religious wars and ethno-political conflicts.
The Role of Emotion in Mediation and Negotiation
Much of the training literature for negotiation and mediation suggests that emotions should be simply ignored. The prevailing idea seems to be that negotiators should try to set their feelings aside and mediators should try to steer disputants towards "rational" behavior. However, it seems obvious that strong emotions, in particular, the parties'fear and anger, are typically part of the negotiation process. Emotions often cause disputes to escalate and sometimes even cause negotiations to break down. When people feel that their interests are threatened, they often become agitated, angry, and fearful. Ignoring such emotions is likely to harm the negotiation process, not help it. [12] Often trying to suppress or dampen the emotions may simply lead to resentment and the breakdown of agreements. Parties may try to disrupt a process because they do not feel heard, or refuse to follow through with an agreement because their feelings were not recognized. [13]
Roger Fisher and William Ury (1983) suggest that the first step in dealing with strong emotions is to acknowledge them, and to try to understand their source. In many cases, these emotions should be dealt with before addressing the substance of the dispute. A refusal to deal with emotional and relational issues may make it impossible to address substantive issues, they argue. Parties must acknowledge the fact that certain emotions are present and allow the other side to express their feelings. They must also be careful not to dismiss others' feelings or lash out in response to emotional outbursts, as this is likely to provoke an even more intense emotional response from the other side.
Because emotion often plays a much more central role in decision making than we realize, it is important to look at parties' subjective view of the situation when trying to determine whether a settlement can and will be reached.
Emotions have the potential to play either a positive or negative role in negotation. During negotiations, the decision as to whether or not to settle rests in part on emotional factors. For an agreement to be reached, it is not necessary that parties overcome all obstacles or address all their substantive concerns. There simply need to be enough incentives to make settlement look like the best option. Because emotion often overcomes logic in the course of the negotiation process, it is important to keep in mind the sorts of feelings that move parties toward resolution. If parties are not emotionally invested in the process, negotiation is unlikely to succeed. Some examples of emotional rewards that might result from reaching an agreement include the establishment of good personal relationships, trust, respect recognition, honor, satisfaction, sense of belonging, and appreciation. [14]
In general, positive emotions increase the likelihood that parties will reach their instrumental goals. Negotiators who are in a positive mood tend to enjoy the interaction more, use less aggressive tactics, and achieve more integrative outcomes. [15] Research has shown that positive emotions foster problem solving, creativity, respect for others' perspectives, and even improved cognitive ability. In addition, feelings of empathy may improve understanding, facilitate communication, and allow us to care for others. [16]
Negative feelings, on the other hand, may have a detrimental impact on negotiations and mediation processes. During negotiations, emotions may intensify as a result of perceived rudeness, rule violations, misrepresentation, challenges to one's own authority, or parties' sense of shame. Feelings that may dissuade parties from agreeing to a negotiated settlement that appears in all other respects to be reasonable include distrust, anger, fear, contempt, embarrassment, shame, pride, and disappointment. In many instances, these same negative emotions inhibit communication during mediation and make it difficult for parties to engage in constructive discussion. As a result of negative feelings, one party may be antagonistic and resist anything the other party proposes. A person may also seek revenge for what she sees as the bad behavior of the other side. Anger, in particular, sometimes disrupts negotiations by reducing the level of trust, clouding parties' judgment, narrowing parties' focus of attention, and changing their central goal from reaching agreement to retaliating against the offender. [17] In sum, negative emotions tend to lead toward inaccurate judgments, lessened concern for the other parties' preferences, and neglect of one's own instrumental goals. [18]
However, there are some instances when the expression of negative emotions can benefit negotiation or mediation. Legitimately expressed anger, for example, can be an extremely effective way to communicate one's commitment, sincerity, and needs. [19] In addition, strategically highlighting one's feelings can sometimes serve as an effective negotiating tactic.
Parties need to find ways to express their emotions effectively during negotiations. In Western cultures, this means being assertive without being provocative or confrontational as well as being willing to make small concessions in order to build trust and defuse anger. Negotiators should also learn to recognize anger before it erupts, try to assess the cause of anger, and apologize when appropriate. Finally, empathizing with another party's emotions and sharing one's own vulnerable feelings can help to build trust and provide reassurance.
Managing Strong Emotions
There are various methods parties can use to deal with emotions so that they have a constructive effect on conflict, rather than a destructive one. Anger management strategies are probably the ones most widely discussed in negotiation and mediation texts. These tactics include relaxation techniques, cognitive restructuring exercises, and communication and listening techniques. These tactics are supposed to give disputants a way to express their angry feelings without being destructive or causing more hurt feelings. One way for disputants to express their feelings in a non-confrontational way is through "I-messages." Theorists note that people "who express anger constructively may provide listeners with a rapid, exact and comprehensive description of their grievances and needs" that is informative and beneficial. [20]
Trauma healing is another way to help parties manage their emotions. Victims of war and violence often feel humiliated, helpless, and hopeless. Other emotional responses that commonly result from trauma include depression, intense fear, and anxiety. One strategy that can help parties to acknowledge and deal with trauma and hidden emotions is storytelling. Some theorists point out that one reason that protracted conflicts get so "stuck" is that disputants do not feel deeply heard by one another or the world at large. Often this is because parties delete their emotions from the narratives they tell about conflict. The "story that each side tells to itself and others about the conflict" does not mention the anger, hurt feelings, humiliation, and shame that parties have experienced. In order to resolve their conflict, parties must begin to acknowledge their hidden feelings in a way that leaves dignity intact. People should have a chance to tell their stories of pain and oppression. The "truth-telling" that occurred in South Africa, for example, allowed both black and white citizens to express some of their emotions and begin to change their shared narrative. [21] Some other ways to begin the process of emotional healing and peacebuilding include testimonies, memorials, and group ceremonies.
In addition, there are various communication processes that attempt to meet the emotions head on and channel them in constructive ways. In transformative mediation, two of the central goals are empowerment and parties' mutual recognition of relational issues. Insofar as emotions are seen as an integral part of conflict, mediators encourage their expression during proceedings. One of the mediator's primary tasks is to help parties to become more aware of their own emotional expressions and behaviors and to recognize the feelings of others. Rather than trying to suppress or control the emotions, mediators should "learn to identify cues to unacknowledged emotions in the discourse of the disputing parties." [22] Helping parties to communicate and acknowledge their emotions is key to the restoration of healthy relationships.
Various tools are available to deal with strong emotions that surface during intervention processes. First, mediators should try to validate and/or soothe parties' emotions and attempt to set a constructive tone for mediation. Some methods of emotional management and communication include empathic listening (also called "active listening"), perspective taking, apology, symbolic gestures, and trust building. In addition, the mediator may allow the parties to vent their emotions in a caucus or joint session; or suppress and contain emotions by interrupting a conversation, taking a cooling-off break, or engaging in shuttle diplomacy. [23] When conversations become overly heated or destructive, mediators can identify the emotional expression as problematic and offer explicit guidelines to govern communication.
Mediators can also assist parties in emotionally reappraising and reframing the current situation. Parties in conflict appraise their circumstances in certain ways and react emotionally as a result. Through dialogue, analytical problem solving, and discussion, disputants can modify their appraisals and co-construct their emotional reactions. [24] This involves the ability to visualize the world as it appears to others and imagine how they must be feeling. As parties reshape the emotional meaning attached to their relationship and interaction and alter their view of the situation at hand, parties can determine which feelings they experience and in effect negotiate their emotions.
One technique that may serve as a complement to emotional reframing is appreciative inquiry. [25] This approach relies upon collaborative inquiry and affirmative questioning to collect positive stories and attend to what is best within their community or group. In this way, disputants cooperatively search for the passions and feelings that hold the potential for constructive change. Parties then use their understanding of "the best of what is" to construct a vision of what their community might be if they could identify their strengths and build upon their current achievements. Thus, this approach taps into whatever positive feelings are available and builds upon them.
[1] Suzanne Retzinger and Thomas Scheff, "Emotion, Alienation, and Narratives: Resolving Intractable Conflict." Mediation Quarterly 18(12)(2000-2001); available at: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/faculty/scheff/16.html
[2] Erik A. Fisher and Steven W. Sharp, The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict: Understanding Emotions and Power Struggles, (Westport, CT: Praeger Publishers, 2004), 60.
[3] Daniel L. Shapiro, "Negotiating Emotions," in Conflict Resolution Quarterly, (20:1, 2002), 68.
[4] Retzinger and Scheff, http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/faculty/scheff/16.html
[5] Shiri Milo-Locker,"The Decision to Settle - Balance, Setoffs and Tradeoffs Between Rational, Emotional and Psychological Forces," Mediate.com, available at: http://www.mediate.com/articles/lockerS1.cfm?nl=51
[6] Retzinger and Scheff, http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/faculty/scheff/16.html
[7] Shapiro, 72.
[8] ibid.
[9] T.S. Jones and A. Bodtker, "Mediating With Heart in Mind: Addressing Emotion in Mediation Practice," in Negotiation Journal, (17:3, 2001), 228.
[10] T. J. Scheff, Bloody Revenge: Emotions, Nationalism, and War,(Boulder, CO: Westview Press, 1994), 3.
[11] ibid., 22.
[12] Daniel Bjerknes and Kristine Paranica,"Training Emotional Intelligence For Conflict Resolution Practitioners," Mediate.com, available at: http://mediate.com/articles/bjerknes.cfm
[13] ibid.
[14] Milo-Locker, http://www.mediate.com/articles/lockerS1.cfm?nl=51
[15] Shapiro, 69.
[16] Robert S. Adler, Benson Rosen, and Elliot M. Silverstein, "Emotions in Negotiation: How to Manage Fear and Anger," in Negotiation Journal, (14:2, 1998). Summary available at: http://www.colorado.edu/conflict/full_text_search/AllCRCDocs/adler.htm
[17] ibid.
[18] Shapiro, 70.
[19] Adler, Rosen, and Silverstein, http://www.colorado.edu/conflict/full_text_search/AllCRCDocs/adler.htm
[20] Retzinger and Scheff, http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/faculty/scheff/16.html
[21] ibid.
[22] ibid.
[23] Schreier, 103-4.
[24] Shapiro,78.
[25] International Institute for Sustainable Development, "Appreciative Inquiry and Community Development," available at: http://www.iisd.org/ai/
Use the following to cite this article:
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Glaser, Tanya. "Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most--Summary." University of Colorado Conflict Research Consortium, University of Colorado Conflict Research Consortium, 2000.
Available at: http://www.beyondintractability.org/booksummary/10170/.
This is a summary of Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen's, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. This book explores what makes some conversations difficult, why people avoid having difficult conversations, and why people often manage difficult conversations poorly. The authors offer techniques for having more effective, fruitful discussions.
Glaser, Tanya. "Emotions in Negotiation: How to Manage Fear and Anger--Summary." University of Colorado: Conflict Research Consortium.
Available at: http://www.beyondintractability.org/articlesummary/10011/.
This summary covers an article by Robert S. Adler, Benson Rosen, and Elliot M. Silverstein from the Negotiation Journal. In the article, the authors discuss the management of fear and anger in negotiation situations.
Managing Strong Emotions.
Available at: http://www.colorado.edu/conflict/peace/treatment/angermgt.htm.
Interactions involving parties who are extremely angry with each other often degenerate into emotional confrontations which increase, rather than decrease, hostilities. Effective anger management strategies are needed to help people deal with their anger without further escalating the conflict.? Other strong emotions such as distrust, fear, and suspicion must be dealt with as well if escalation is to be avoided or diminished.?
Retzinger, Suzanne and Thomas Scheff. "Emotion, Alienation, and Narratives: Resolving Intractable Conflict." ,
Available at: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/faculty/scheff/16.html.
"This article explores the role of emotion and alienation in protracted conflict, making preliminary suggestions as to how they might be managed. First we note the slight attention given these topics in the mediation/negotiation literature. Then we show how emotional/relational issues are related to theories of economic/political interests, on the one hand, and narratives and ideologies of conflict, on the other. We focus on the way alienated relationships impair communication, and the way they generate intense emotions, especially shame and anger. In our view, secret (unacknowledged) alienation and shame are the primary causes of intractable conflict. Finally, we propose a role for mediators in the acknowledgment of emotion and alienation as a way of resolving intractable conflicts." - Article Abstract
Conflict Research Consortium. Managing Strong Emotions.
Available at: http://www.colorado.edu/conflict/peace/treatment/angermgt.htm.
This web page provides tips on how to deal with emotions when involved in conflict.
Bell, Chris. Shame, Guilt and Justice: Self-Conscious Emotions as Mediators of the Positive Effects of Perceived Justice. Social Science Electronic Publishing, Inc..
Available at: http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=321367.
While organizational and justice research has explored issues related to affect, shame and guilt have been virtually ignored. Shame and guilt are self-conscious, self-evaluative emotions that occur in a social context, and have important behavioral and attitudinal implications. Finding one's self responsible for a negative performance evaluation is just such a context in which people can potentially feel shame and guilt. Shame, however, is connected with global assessments of the self, while guilt is more about specific behaviors rather than the whole person. People experiencing shame feel less control over the situation, and engage in withdrawal behaviors. People experiencing guilt feel they have relatively more control over the situation, and are more outwardly focused, engaging in behaviors aimed at reparation and amends. Negative feedback can also produce cognitive effects such as a loss of self-efficacy, and social effects such as a loss of identification with the social group.
Milo-Locker, Shiri. "The Decision to Settle - Balance, Setoffs and Tradeoffs Between Rational, Emotional and Psychological Forces." , April 2004
Available at: http://www.mediate.com/articles/lockerS1.cfm?nl=51.
This article suggests the decision to settle is based on tradeoffs balancing between rational-economical, emotional, and psychological dimensions. It also proposes a three-step process to assess each parties' needs and decipher whether or not they will agree to settle and the reasons motivating their decision.
Bjerknes, Daniel and Kristine Paranica. "Training Emotional Intelligence For Conflict Resolution Practitioners." , September 4, 2002
Available at: http://mediate.com/articles/bjerknes.cfm.
This article examines the benefit to training emotional intelligence.
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Stone, Douglas, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most. New York: Viking, April 3, 1999.
This book walks you through a proven, concrete, step-by-step approach for understanding and conducting tough conversations. It shows you how to get ready, how to start the conversations in ways that reduce defensiveness, and how to keep the conversation on a constructive track regardless of how the other person responds. Click here for more info.
Fisher, Roger, William L. Ury and Bruce Patton. Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, 2nd Edition . Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co., April 1992.
This is an updated version of Roger Fisher's and William Ury's classic 1981 text, Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. In this bestseller, Fisher, Ury, and Patton describe what they call "principled negotiation", which is basically interest-based bargaining with a few extra twists. Key ideas include: 1) separate the people from the problem; 2) negotiate interests, not positions; 3) look for mutually beneficial options; and 4) use objective criteria. This work is considered essential foundational reading for anyone interested in negotiation. Click here for more info.
Scheff, Thomas J. Bloody Revenge: Emotions, Nationalism, and War. Boulder, CO: Westview Press, 1994.
In this book Scheff argues that intractable conflicts are rooted in feelings of shame and rage. He examines several different sources of unresolved psychological trauma that can, and often does, contribute to the length and violent nature of a conflict.
Terry, Susanne. "Conciliation: Responses to the Emotional Content of Disputes." Mediation Quarterly 45:16, 1987.
This article examines how the expression of emotions can be used to encourage settlement. Terry argues that mediators must interpret emotions by close observations of their clients, then they must decide what kind of response to these emotions should be used. Mediators must take into account reasons for their clients behavior and also the trust that they have in the sincerity of their clients behavior. Terry then lists six appropriate responses for mediators when dealing with emotions.
Augsburger, David W. Conflict Mediation Across Cultures: Pathways and Patterns. Westminster John Knox Press, 1995.
"Believing not only that conflict is inevitable in human life but that it is essential and can be quite constructive, Augsburger proposes a shift to an "international" approach in resolving conflict. Augsburger focuses on interpersonal and group conflicts and provides a comparison of conflict patterns within and among various cultures."
Retzinger, Suzanne and Thomas Scheff. "Emotion, Alienation, and Narratives: Resolving Intractable Conflict." Mediation Quarterly 18:1, 2000.
"This article explores the role of emotion and alienation in protracted conflict and makes suggestions as to how they might be managed. First we note the scant attention given to these topics in the mediation and negotiation literature. Then we show how emotional and relational issues are related to theories of economic and political interests, on the one hand, and narratives and ideologies of conflict, on the other. We focus on the way alienated relationships impair communication and the way they generate intense emotions, especially shame and anger. In our view, secret (unacknowledged) alienation and shame are the primary causes of intractable conflict. Finally, we propose a role for mediators in the acknowledgement of emotion and alienation as a way of resolving intractable conflicts."
Sfchreider, Lori S. "Emotional Intelligence and Mediation Training." Conflict Resolution Quarterly 20:1, 2002.
This article examines how well mediation training programs emphasize emotional intelligence and make some recommendations for improving training in emotional intelligence.
Scheff, Thomas J and Suzanne M. Retzinger. Emotions and Violence: Shame and Rage in Destructive Conflicts. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books, January 1991.
They explore human interaction in psychotherapy sessions, marital quarrels, TV game shows, and high politics. Their original interpretation of a classic work of fiction, Goethe's The Sufferings of Young Werther, and case studies of Hitler and his master architect, Albert Speer, offer additional, powerful illustrations of their theory: violence arises from the denial of emotions particularly from the denial of shame and from hidden alienation in relationships.
Scheff, Thomas J. Emotions, the Social Bond, and Human Reality. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 1997.
"In his important new book, Thomas Scheff offers an innovative approach to researching human behavior which relates the smallest parts of social interaction to the greatest wholes of social structure. These are the details and connections usually found only in the finest novels, but Scheff combines the insights of the humanities and social sciences to capture the same evocative details of sight, sound, and context, better to understand what he calls "human reality." He puts a fresh emphasis on the importance of emotions in the social bond, and describes in newly subtle ways the outer and inner lives of persons in real life, such as inner-city children, and in fiction, such as Jane Austen's heroines. By closely observing the significance of words and gestures in the context in which they occur, he is able to illuminate the connection between people's lives and the society in which they live." - Publisher's Word
Jones, Tricia S. and Andrea Bodtker. "Mediating with Heart in Mind: Addressing Emotion in Mediation Practice." Negotiation Journal 17:3, July 1, 2001.
"Given the centrality of emotion and emotional communication to conflict interaction, the lack of attention to emotion in mediation is particularly surprising. This essay suggests that mediation practice can -- and should -- be informed by the wealth of existing theory and research on emotion in the social sciences. The authors define emotion and argue the centrality of its place in conflict. They address issues germane to the cognitive, expressive, and physiological aspects of emotion and their relevance to mediation practice. Within each area, they discuss the implications of the emotional experience of the disputant and the emotional experience of the mediator." (Abstract from article)
Shapiro, Daniel. "Negotiating Emotions." Conflict Resolution Quarterly 20:1, 2002.
This article argues against the common belief that emotions should be left out of negotiation. Shapiro believes that making practitioners more aware of emotions can allow to them to negotiate more effectively.
Taylor, Gabriele. Pride, Shame and Guilt: Emotions of Self-Assessment. Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1988.
"In this book, the author's discussion of pride, shame and guilt centres on the beliefs involved in the experience of any of these emotions. Through a detailed study, she shows how these beliefs are alike in that they are directed towards the self and its status, and how they differ in the specific view taken of the self. She illustrates the experience of these three emotions by examples taken from Engish literature. Unlike invented cases, these supply a a context and indicate the complexity of the web in which these emotions usually occur. An examination of integrity makes clear the relevant notion of the self and provides the sense in which some of the emotions of self-assessment are also moral emotions." - Publisher's Description
Fisher, Erik and Steven Sharp. "The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict: Understanding Emotions and Power Struggles." In The Art of Managing Everyday Conflict: Understanding Emotions and Power Struggles. Edited by Fisher, Erik and Steven Sharp, eds. Westport, CT: Praegar Publishers, April 30, 2004.
We all have power struggles affecting each of us in every stage of our life, nearly every day. We all get wrapped up in conflicts, but often have no idea how to resolve them. This book dicusses the "hows" and "whys" of conflict and provides easy-to-use solutions for most situations. The focus is on the role of emotion. Conflict results from the way in which we view our own power, and our views on power are largely influenced by our emotions. So we must begin by looking closely at our emotions. Fisher and Sharp guide us to pinpoint those and see how emotions move us into playing one of the classic roles in conflict - Victim, Persecutor, Instigator or Rescuer. And we learn how emotions can play productive purposes; how they can be used to minimize and remove serious conflict in our lives. The text includes vignettes, anecdotes, personal inventories, illustrations and concrete exercises.
While general readers will find this text of interest, it will also provide valuable information for students of psychology, sociology, business management, human resources and family studies.
Mallozzi, J.S., K.G. Allred and F. et. al. Matsui. "The Influence of Anger and Compassion on Negotiation Performance." Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes 70:3, 1997.
This experiment tested how perceived harmful behavior affects a person's willingness to participate in negotiation. If a person believed their partner was responsible for harmful behavior then this reduced the desire to work together to negotiate.
Ury, William L. The Third Side: Why We Fight and How We Can Stop. New York: Penguin Books, September 2000.
In this book, William Ury explains that it takes two sides to fight and a third to stop it. Based on years of experience as a conflict resolution practitioner, Ury describes ten practical roles that people can play to prevent destructive conflict. He argues that fighting is not inevitable human behavior and that we can transform battles into constructive conflict and cooperation by turning to what he calls, "the third side".
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Moore, D.B. "Pride, Shame and Empathy among Peers: Community Conferencing as Transformative Justice in Education." Children's Peer Relations , 1998.
Berry, Bonnie. Social Rage: Emotional and Cultural Conflict. New York: Garland Publishing, 1999.
Berry examines the concept of social rage, or the way in which anger at an individual level gets translated into group anger. The introductory chapter is particularly helpful in understanding how social rage is formed, expressed, and handled.
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