If You're Not Part of the Solution, You're Part of the Problem

By
Heidi Burgess
Guy M. Burgess

September, 2017

The course of conflict is determined not by the actions of a few leaders (though that's obviously important). It is determined by the cumulative behavior of millions of grassroots citizens. 

Find some way to get involved and actively promote more constructive approaches to conflict--everyone can do something--within their family and/or their community to make our conflict enviornment less destructive.

Other things you can do to help.

How:  Margaret Mead is famously quoted as saying: "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." In the context of complex, intractable conflicts, it will take more than a small group of people--it will take a very large group of people, each person making his or her own, small steps. All of these actions will likely be different, all of them  will focus on different problems and different locations.  But together, they can add up to a potent force against evil which flourishes when people assume either that there is nothing they, personally, can do about it, or that "everything will turn out all right--it always has before."  

We (Guy and Heidi Burgess) can't tell anyone what to do, or how to do it--the answer is very person- and situation-specific.  Just look around you at the problems most pressing in your locale, choose one, and start doing whatever you can to make the situation better--keeping in mind that one can't just "fight harder," one needs to "fight smarter."  Focus on acting in ways that First, Do No Harm. Look at the conflict dynamics that are stopping people from doing what needs to be done.  Figure out how to change those dynamics. Get ideas from this website and others focused on constructive conflict engagement. Recruit your friends to do the same...and find out what others are doing along the same lines...you'll start being that potent force for good!

Why: Another famous saying--this one is a poem with several versions, was circulating in the 1950s, after World War II.  It starts out.. "First they came for the...socialists (or communists) and I did not speak out because I was not a socialist." It goes onto "coming for the Jews," and ends "and then they came for me." The point was that people must speak out when bad things happen..even when they aren't happening to them...or else they will continue to happen until fascism or other totalitarian form of governance take over and everyone is harmed. This poem is circulating again in the U.S. in 2017--and its message is clear.  If people assume they can't do anything to improve the political conflict in the United States, the situation will swallow them up. If they assume it will all turn out all right, they are depending on others to fix things for them.  If we all depend on others....

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Question for You:

How do we get people to take the intractable conflict problem more seriously?  How can we convince them to stop using approaches to conflict that make the situation worse, not better?  Have you convinced someone or an organization to chart a new course when responding to conflict?  Tell us about what you did and how it worked out.  Did it help?  What did you learn from the experience? (Answer below in the comment field, but in order to do that you need to be registered as a MBI Discussant.)